I don't know what her plans are for dating. She expects she will want to date others. Maybe with me but not right now. I asked her if she was dating now. Once again, she said NOOOO, but not in an 'angry' way. She said she doesn't trust herself right now. In a way I believe her, in a way I don't. Doesn't matter, I can't stop her from doing what she wants.
She said I should date after awhile. I said I felt like I was still committed to M but in a few months maybe I'll want to date someone else, maybe I won't. Right now, I don't.
Well, I'd have to say that went pretty well. Except for the stuff I left in the quote it sounds like you really got better understanding, both of you. I'd say that her reaction at least shows a possibility of hope. (There are always other possibilities, and they can't be ignored, but there's no point in dwelling o them.) I think talking about dating or not is totally counterproductive. Look at it this way, if she want to she is going to, no matter what she says now, or what your opinion is. Also, if you don't want to, you won't, having here tell you that she thinks you should doesn't mean you should (you know what's right, there). It's her way of trying to justify what she plans on doing. Not having that conversation doesn't give her that 'out'. But, too late for that, it's water under the bridge.
I think you made the right decision on moving out, for now. I know there are other opinions, from people I respect, but I just think staying wouldn't work. Besides, this give you a much better chance to clear up the house arrest thing in a positive way, and I think helps to set a precise time when the situation can be re-evaluated (at least by you).
