ya, get that old lady out of your head. she can't hurt you! I'm curious, how is his R with his mom? I remember H's mom telling him to quit contacting OW, and that sure didn't work. maybe his mom will be unknowingly push him closer to you!
anyways, I guess the next thing is going to be... where do YOU want to be on his bday? If you would rather not be there, maybe just tell him, hey, would it hurt your feelings if I did such n such on your bday? Then if he says no, you can just go off an do your own thing... and if he hesitates or says he'd like you to be there, then maybe you might reconsider?
were you planning on getting him anything, or just doing the card thing or what? if just a card, if it were me, I think I'd do this... I'd make a list of everything I could compliment my H on. Like, how smart he is on football and says everything before the announcers, what a great dad he is, how good his butt looks in his jeans, etc. just sincere and lots of funny and fun things so it's not all mushy where he would feel pressure or guilt. Your H still needs encouragement IMHO.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I'm curious, how is his R with his mom? I remember H's mom telling him to quit contacting OW, and that sure didn't work. maybe his mom will be unknowingly push him closer to you! 