What I can't understand is: what does the XBF see in her? She is mentally unstable, unable to care for herself or her kids. Where does he see going with a woman like that?
Ok, the history was that she dumped him after he hooked up with his current 7 yrs live in gf. Obviously to any reasonable person when two people been dating exclusively for 9 months and is physically intimate, that would indicate that they are bf/gf right? Plus that guy was calling MIL mom. He still does, which is really wacko. BTW, MIL absolutely hates it when he did and thinks the guy is a major loser. Of course now W has forgiven him and justify it as they never formally declared they are bf/gf. She even went as far to justify that maybe she misunderstood him and maybe they are just friends with benefits and he has never indicated they were exclusive. Ok whatever. Obviously the the ILs and all her other relatives thought they were bf/gf. They even went to her brother's wedding together. I do sometimes wonder if I was just the rebound guy except she married me....
So W really started with the xBF about the time she got on medication and is coming out of the craziness of postpartum. She basically felt I abandoned her and she's all alone on her own. As for him I'm thinking that he's still living in the past and is probably happy that she's taking him back after dumping him. He doesn't see any of the daily going on. He's 2000 miles away. I feel sorry for his gf. He's been stringing her along for 7-8 years and has no intention to marry her or anything. I guess if she's smart she should dump his a$$ too. She gave him an ultimatum a year ago and then caved. A lesson learned for me. When we were first together and W asked me if it's ok if she remain in contact with him because they are supposedly good friends, I should've said absolutely hell no instead of trying to be a nice guy. There should've been closure and no contact should've been allowed period! Oh well, it doesn't matter. She has finally realized he is a loser and there is no future with him. I'm just going to let that go and I know she is sorry and knows she shouldn't have done what she did. No point in keep making me miserable thinking about it.
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
