OJ ~ I have been suspecting for some time because of her resistence and the fact she gets pissed at him so quick when things don't go her way. She has ZERO respect for that man. I mean, there's venting, which we all do here, and then there are NASTY HABITS that need to be broken. I've tried to bait her before but she just gets sarcastic with me. Basically after her revealing post today, I've got her dead to rights. If she listens, she can change. She is insecure - that's the bottom line - but she does NOT get what she has DONE to him and I sometimes wonder if she cares. She is a tough lady and not in a good way either BUT she CAN be. IF she turns that toughness around and lets it work FOR her instead of against her.
Amy- I'm not sure you should be working for a lawyer. I think maybe you should BE the lawyer.
I had kind of noticed that her first reaction was always self defense. But I never had a clue what was in there. My wife is a bit like her, I think, but usually stops pretty short of the absolute name calling. Of course, I can do little right, and we haven't ml for almost three years, so I guess maybe she's got what she wants, anyway. I think after the holidays I may see if things can be changed.
My wife is funny though. The uncle I went to see this summer has suffered another setback, and has pretty much said he's ready to give up. I talked to him today, and he really sounded comfortable with it. They though he wasn't going to make it through the weekend, but he rebounded a bit. But it is clearly only a matter of time, probably weeks at best (though one never knows). Anyway, my cousins and my mom (his twin) will be converging over in Lubbock over the weekend, and my wife said I should go. After talking to him this morning, I agreed, he sounded really enthusiastic about it. So, tonight I told my wife that I figured I'd go out Friday, and come back Monday, leaving two whole days there. She said I should stay longer and spend more time with them. Which is going to mean more work for her, at least to a degree. Though the kids are getting pretty self sufficient, except for the small thermonuclear devices required to get them moving in the morning! Anyway, for someone who seems to care so little, she cares a lot! Makes it hard to know what direction to go, sometimes.
Well, that was fun! I think it is helpful just to put it down on 'paper' sometimes, kind of therapy.
Anyway, with dars's thread going where it is, I will not be practicing humor there, at all. I some MLC cases, I think it helps maintain sanity, but that guy isn't MLC, or at least he wasn't when this started!
