The holiday stuff is tricky indeed! I think it depends on how comfortable you feel. In another year you may feel different than you do now, FLTC!
In my case my H wanted the divorce (expect it to be final in Jan 08). I am still in our family home. We have seen too many ugly divorces with family and friends so we vowed we would be able to dance at D17's wedding (IN THE FUTURE!) and not make anyone feel uncomfortable around us. We spent Thanksgiving together at a niece's house and on the surface no one would have known we are in the middle of a divorce. H is working on Christmas so D17 and I are heading out of town. No tree is up here yet(it was always H's job). I haven't asked him to help with it; D17 says she doesn't even want the tree up. Not sure why. He has already bought me a Christmas present along with presents for D17. I am not planning a specific time to unwrap gifts together but will be willing to do it IF he plans it!
So everyone is different and you have to do what works for you. New traditions may be better than the old!!!
You can start with your R&R with the kids in the Spring making new memories!
How about a New Year's Resolution to save some money for FLTC???? (I promised I wouldn't say anything more about money, but someone else started it so I was just adding my 2 cents).
