Can this work?

[Tina M]

Thanks for the input, it's certainly food for thought. I'm reading DR and am doing a 180. Too early too tell what the impact is, but I know I'm feeling great! Have really let go! As for his unemployment status, he has to sue for proper severance and if he finds a job too soon it'll detract from the settlement - a little different here in Canada - however, I was behind him 100%- I understood due to his length of service and status than he wouldn't find a job for close to a year; however, he's not even doing any research or looking at going back to school. I wouldn't mind supporting him in his efforts, but he's just obsessing over his hobbies and was playing on the internet. I suspect he's depressed. When I tried to encourage him or brought it up.... I was a Nag, etc., Then the bombshell that he's been considering a D.... Perhaps he thinks he can do what he wants if he walks away with half? Maybe someone else out there, desparately wanting a mate will tolerate it? My previous H thought the grass was greener on the other side 12 years ago and since has been through three releationships and went bankrupt! Something to consider .....?

Thanks again for your replies,
Tina