Am noticing with my spouse... He was threatening me that he was going to take a vacation back east over his Christmas vacation...fly to Minnesota pick up his sister and drive to Florida for two weeks....
When I did not respond with anger or annoyance...he seemed puzzled...but kept on...going online looking for tickets, etc... I then smilingly offered to help look for cheap tickets for him and told him, as hard as he works and after all we have been going through he deserved a vacation...I did not want to be selfish and deny him that...of course, I said I would be happier if he spent Christmas at home with me, but if that was what he wanted, I hoped he really had a great time...
he continues to look for car rentals and tickets...but books nothing....when asked about it..he says plans can change... I do not respond to this at all....
Recently, asked if he had gotten his ticket for his vacation..he says tickets to Chicago are cheap, $150...I tell him he should jump on that...and then drive to Minnesota and grab his sister from there going to Florida...he grows quiet over phone and says...I haven't made any plans...
My NORMAL behavior would have been to pout, be angry, argue and demand that he stay home or take me....or because now he is talking divorce and things are a bit different to just pout and argue and call him selfish and mean.....however....instead I have been encouraging him to go and relax and have himself a good old time...why not? He does work hard. It's a family trip. And better he go there then be miserable around here at the holidays...my son and I will be fine together. And guess what? Now, he doesn't sound so excited about going anymore. LOL
