I think I was making it more exhausting by creating pressure to bring things to a resolution "right now", & we all know how attractive that is.
This is a great insight and a helpful reminder as well. I have to say, though, that I think it's totally understandable to yearn for resolution given the craziness of the ride.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
It's still shocking at how quickly it turns around when you stop acting bruised, & begin showing positive, happy behavior.
Since I've completely backed off & act As If I'm completely fine with the way things are, I've had nice interactions w/H.
That's terrific, Sunny. I guess it really is never too late. I'm happy for you.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
I've had to take the glass of wine out of the picture though, as I've recently found that it wasn't getting me closer to my goals.
Good for you, and ditto for me, at least for the most part. Maybe we can still share a glass on the ski trip.
Originally Posted By: warm&sunny
That means letting go of my R having to be any way but what it is right now.
Amen, Sunny. Those days when I feel like it's okay that things are exactly the way they are right now, like I'm embracing the present with all its uncertainty, are good days.
