Good point, Sir. Validating your spouses feelings doesn't mean you have to roll over and play dead. It's a fine line to walk -- agreeing and listening to the WAS. However, we all have a line (unique to each of us) beyond which the R is over for us as well. Whatever that boundary is (a common one is that some people can handle a S having an A, other's can't), identify it and be strong if your S encroaches upon it.
That's not a great explanation, but maintaining self-respect is something we all need to do.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
