Think about it.

Our own spouses will try to rationalize their betrayal, and often outright hatred, of someone they vowed before God to love, honor and cherish till death.

So, is it any wonder that the OP can rationalize their own transgressions against us, the LBS?

Me: 49
WAW: 47
S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

Real love is a decision.
Marriage is a commitment.