Looks like I was right to be suspicious. Today while balancing our budget I noticed that H's paycheck went into our account by an ABM deposit and not by direct deposit as per usual. It was also $300 less than normal. I e-mailed him to ask him and he said, he'd opened up his own account and his paychecks would now go into his account and he would transfer them to the joint account.
A couple weeks ago we'd discussed getting our own accounts and transferring out our own spend $$ into these accounts once the bills were paid. But instead he does this?? Behind my back?? And he's holding back $$? Even if this $300 is spending $$ why is he still using our joint account to make these purchases and withdrawals.
I am going to retain a lawyer tomorrow to get myself protected right away.
BUT, WTF is he doing?? I'm on mat leave! The baby is 6 wks old!!This is so beyond anything I thought he was capable of doing. I didn't think it could get worse than him asking me to look at selling the house 3 weeks ago...and then he pulls this. This is so much more than "I just don't love her anymore"...this is hateful, sneaky, utterly selfish, disrespectful...I could go on and on.
He must be SO sick for the man I married to be capable of this! So here I am mad, scared, sad...but still believing in my heart that he is so sick he doesn't know what he is doing. I feel as though I'm living in a twilight zone! I want to believe the man I married is still in there somewhere and that he is better than this...but he is not that person now and I don't love this person. I want to stand by him...but not only is he not allowing me to (with OW) but he is actually trying to screw me in this process.
Someone help please!! I don't know what to make of all this or what to think! J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
