WAW says "I'm filing for D", but no papers

[SirPrizeMe]

I have to tell you a little more about the sitch. I left the house early in late August, the morning after we had a discussion. I guess you would characterize it as a R talk, so my bad. During the talk she told me, about the OM (though I did not raise the issue), "I still call him occasionally" and "he'll always be my friend."

About two months prior I had asked that she give me three monehts- three months during which she would not speak to or see the OM. She granted that request. Like I said, we apparently didn't make the three months. After that comment, I bowed out of the talk (no yelling or shouting or anger, though I did say, "that is very hurtful to me" or something like that). I went to bed. I thought a little. The next morning I told her that I am better than this, that I deserve better treatment, that I was leaving the house, and that we'd need to sell the house.

(Did I tell this story already?) The very next day she emailed me. I think. maybe she called. can't recall now. Anyway, she contacted me saying she'd like to go back to MC, let's try Retrouvaille, let's work on our marriage. This is after an entire summer of ignoring me. Constant passive aggressive cr*p.

I protested - I only want to do this if you think we can reconcile. (I was a little wary.) She assured me she thought it was possible for us to reconcile.

She never agreed to Retrouvaille. She went to one MC session, during which I behaved badly and was upset, and she never returned. How I regret that outburst now!

Anyway the moral of this story is that she is waffling back and forth. When I was strong - ok, wait, you can argue whether me leaving the house was strong, but I did it in a strong manner. I didn't stomp out. I told her clearly what the problem was. I told her I would no longer accept her treatment of me. And I told her that there would be repercussions (Selling the house). Anyway, when I did that, she started to move closer to me.

When I was weak, throwing a tantrum in the MC session, she ran away from me.

Keep this in mind friends! Learn from my experience!