LWB - I just read your thread again and the recent events - I know you are scared and that this is so super difficult - wow. You've been through a lot. One thing that my C told me recently is that in relationships each spouse has tremendous power. When a negative event (like affairs) occur, the LBS often does not realize *how* to tap that power. How to affect change in the m. I don't know for sure how you can tap that power - but I think that you are on the right path. By releasing him from making a decision (which is what you did) you've taken the power back. So while you might be scared - you really do hold the cards. This isn't to say that one should engage in a power struggle, but you now have the power to start making some real decisions. That should feel empowering - (and I guess intimidating/freight comes along with that...)
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
