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[mrarow]

I took the book back!! I think she may have read the first chapter which is not so bad. She and I have not started to sleep separate as per her request. I have started to give her as much space as I can. I really listened to her and expressed how I understand where she is at and that I understand that her needing space is not to hurt me but for here to try and work things thru for herself. Its not about me now and there is nothing I do that does not look like I am tiring to be controlling except when I just shut up and listen I have always been way to controlling and selfish and am addressing these and other issues in Counselling now. She has been going as well for herself but not will to start any Joint Counselling yet because of where she is and the affair she is having with my X-friend. She has been talking about wanting to separate now but no D talk yet really. She is clearly confused and on fence still.