hey lwb! sounds like you are doing well. nope, no db, but actually it is, because its a 180 from how you have been acting. and isn't that db? I mean, if one thing isn't working, go for the opposite.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
My Sally, you are right, its different. Normally I would try to 'breeze' over his bad mood (as if), but not anymore. If we are to be under the same roof, it ain't happening anymore...
edie, my friend, thanks for stopping by!!! I need to go check on you....
Aruba is fantastic. Although, very biased, I must say there are fantastic places I could recommend. Aruba has just about half island that is fun. I say there is a place with 4,000 miles of " coast" fun. But just like JB, I'd have to kill those who knew about it. Unless they belong to this forum.
LWB - I just read your thread again and the recent events - I know you are scared and that this is so super difficult - wow. You've been through a lot. One thing that my C told me recently is that in relationships each spouse has tremendous power. When a negative event (like affairs) occur, the LBS often does not realize *how* to tap that power. How to affect change in the m. I don't know for sure how you can tap that power - but I think that you are on the right path. By releasing him from making a decision (which is what you did) you've taken the power back. So while you might be scared - you really do hold the cards. This isn't to say that one should engage in a power struggle, but you now have the power to start making some real decisions. That should feel empowering - (and I guess intimidating/freight comes along with that...)
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
did somebody mention the tropics? 'cause I'm packing my bags as we speak. I can't get warm this year. I am so cold, no amount of bundling up is helping. I'll trade a white christmas for even a couple of hours of 80 degree temps and a white sandy beach....and something fruity and yummy to drink...and a nice tanned cabana boy to bring it to me...okay, maybe will need more than a couple of hours...
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
those who knew about it. Unless they belong to this forum.