A lot of how what she needs when she is talking about things like her day. She does not want to hear solutions. She wants your empathy. I missed the boat entirely when we spoke. I even have said I don't know why you don't look for a job that makes you happier. It is the exact example he uses. I should have just said something like, "it sounds like you had a rough day." Also, a lot of how I responded to her when she would say something like, "you don't put the dishes up where they go." He points out that a man will feel that it invalidates all his efforts. Whereas a women is not thinking that way, she thinks she is being helpful. A man wants to feel like he can take care of things.
It's very insightful. If you read/listen closely, you will really see how you did things that hurt your spouse and why she felt that way and vice versa.
In a way, it really sux. Because we never intended to make our spouses feel that way. Now, we are miles apart physically and I guess emotionally too.
