Keep the house free of "junk" (start moving out stuff now) Take care of the finances (which includes, but is not limited to, paying taxes by february 2008 this time!) no more underwear in the house possibly also, a regular "date night" kinda thing. maintain the house properly. (possibly, work on one of those things that has been bothering you, at LEAST one day a weekend, every weekend)
This sounds like things for me to do, but actually it is things he has to do on a regular basis b/c I do all I can to clear junk out, but he is the one that constantly piles it back in, plus I can't move what he has in the yard, so he would have to do that. I can only do part of the taxes since he is self employed. I explained the problem about that in one of my posts where I told how he never keeps any kind of records to show things he could count off for, etc. I do all I can and have it ready by tax season, but he doesn't pick up a thing until December and then expects our little DIL to come in here the last day and try to get it all done.
The "date night" thing....I don't know if I'm ready for that yet, but something fun without pressure sure would be nice. It would thrill me for him to do that. Or just play a game or anything sometimes other than watch TV. I get so bored I want to scream. We don't have any friends close to our age that we are like "running buddies" with b/c we don't run anywhere!
Since cold weather is moving in, he may relent to wear sweat pants. I can't get him to throw any papers away. Nothing! We've had our biggest fights over me throwing away old papers that didn't amount to anything. Outragious! He doesn't throw anything away and is constantly buying things he never uses.
Anyway, I will try to think of something more on a consistant line that I could explain. Although any of these areas......any change for the better would be heaven on earth!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
