My husband would never tell me NO flat out, but he makes me feel guilty for wanting to do something or for the responsibility that he'll be left with because I'm out. it's like a subtle, hidden control, but it's still control.

An idea - This might sound odd, but if you ask some friends of yours, close to you, they might be able to tell you how you come off to her. Just ask them to be brutally honest. I know that my Hs friends could tell him (cause they've seen how he is and they've apologized for his behavior to me, sad really), but wouldn't just volunteer the info. he'd have to ask.

It could be something as simple as sarcasm or the tone of voice when you say something. other people tend to see a more unbiased view of how we behave.

good luck!! \:\) ann

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