LOL LWB I saw you post on Jar's thread that your husband was afraid of you when it came to the kid's and OW being involved with them and taking your child to the bathroom. The night my husband and I had this break through I think he was scared of me. I was just done done done taking the blame for everything. I became a lunatic that night. LOL Not hittimg him or being real physcho or anything. But I was pissed and did yell. I pointed out all his faults and forced him to see where he has been wrong. Something just broke through to him that night. The way I put it to him is listen I know I have faults. I have been working on me. But you need to understand this isn't a one way street. Now you are going to listen to the way I feel or the faults I see. Then let's see if we can hash things out when we both know we were at fault.
Congratulations on your strength and courage. I agree with all that your H reaction is a defensive reading of how you are dealing with the situation with elegance. I believe he noticed that your resilience increased while he didn't work through his emotions to try to evolve. That's the downside for those who do not seek help, they are always one step behind. Now he does not know what to do and it looks like he is shooting everywhere just to see what he gets. The fact he is insisting on selling the house, in my opinion, is a block road for you not to leave him. You've said before he is a good father and I don't believe that he can go through with it in the end and he knows about it because he knows it will affect his children.
But you are brave and you will set the path and the rhythm by being an example. What he does not realize is that he is lost but you've left him a trail of "bread pieces" that he can follow when he is ready.
all I can say is lwb, if you come on and type something long and profound, make sure to copy before you hit submit! that, and only that, will be what locks it.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
