Why can't I do this....

[houndfan]

Just a vent....

I am super pissed right now about OM. really have no reason to be, but I am. I was just thinking about some things that we W/I need to do to get ready for our move and prepare our family for more changes in our life and I can't help but think that if this OM was out of the picture things would be so much different. Again, just venting here but I am not sure what the heck she is doing with this relationship with OM.

Just gonna pull a Dom here and list some things out:

* We live here and he lives 906 miles away.
* She has 2 children with me and a life, now lets keep in mind that this life has not always been perfect but she is a stay at home mom with a beautiful home and for the most part has everything she needs. He is also D'd and seems to be "immature" (her words)
* I have a very stable career with unlimited growth. He is a low level marketing person for her company and she admits that he "doesn't make near the money you do".
* With me she could continue to stay home and focus on building her business. With him/or a D she would have to get a full time job to make ends meet even with my support.
* With some effort toward our M she could change the outcome of her life. With him there is no certainty that with effort they would even live in the same town.
* I am a committed father who adores his children and would give up any other activity to spend time with them. He would be a step-parent or boyfriend with no equity stake in their development.

Anyway, I could go on, but I just need to get this out right now. I am baffled at this sitch sometimes, I know that our R would take so much work, but in the end would it not be worth it if we make it? If not, would it not be worth it to insure that we are great partners for our kids?

I wish this scum-bag would just go away. I mean she tells me all the time that she keeps telling him to leave her alone but still I have to deal. Oh well, I got it out now, back to my life....