Yes it is. And I think (I could be wrong) that until you decide what your answer is to that question, your W won't have to decide whether she wants to do what is necessary to make a good marriage.
..as evidenced by the fact that I don't follow up with these arguments we have. I'm showing that its ok for it blow over, that it doesn't matter to me, when in reality it is VERY IMPORTANT to me.
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And the most important answer is not what anyone else would do, but what would you do. The hardest thing any of us have to do is stand and face ourselves and decide what it is that we want out of life, and what it is we are willing to live without. And this is one of those things that must be done alone, just like dying. People can give you advice, perhaps help you make up your mind with witty observations, but at some point you have to look into your soul and decide. Until you do, others can abuse you for your indecision.
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Yup, being wishy washy isn't helping me here. I do have to admit, I've come a long way in the last year. This is something I'd rarely discuss with her before, or if I'd bring it up, it would be like, "you don't love me, you don't care for me, blah, blah". Substituted the "you" for "I feel" and have lost some fear of what her reaction would be.
But - one fear is that I draw a line in the sand - and she says, "ok, well, do what you have to do".
Me: 52 Her: 48 2D 26 & 16 M: 25 years (together 30) EA/discovered by accident Valentines day 2016 Admitted SOME physical but no IC. We know that's a lie. Status - tryin to R
