Jak, I've been trying to be brave in speaking-up during conflict. I expressed my displeasure to my W, when it appeared that she was making decisions about remodeling the bathroom without my input.
She became angry with me during a lengthy phone conversation, but I hung in there with her, expressing that I wanted to have input into the project. She felt that there had to be one appointed project manager, and that her personality was better suited for that.
I agreed to let her be the project manager, and liaison with the handyman and interior designer in choosing colors and cabinets. She asked me to trust her in keeping to our budget.
She has been quite nice to me since that conversation, I guess appreciating my vote of confidence. She's been keeping me posted on the progress. I saw the drafts and the bathroom is going to look great.
The bathroom is an unplanned project. The original plan was for the handyman to glaze the sink, but in the process it fell apart. The next option was to replace the cabinets.
We worked well together at her cooking job on Sunday. There was no conflict regarding my assistance. She was appreciative of my efforts.
My W has commented on my personal growth this past year--dancing, writing.
We're sleeping in separate bedrooms due to the past episodes of turbulence. I prefer to stay there for now, even though we're getting along. She call the rooms her room and my room.
I'm nursing a cold this week. My W cooked chicken soup for me last night.
She slept elsewhere on Saturday night.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
