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[ms ladybug]

O.K. Needing a place to vent...
H went again to his IC appt. yesterday. He called to tell me how "wonderful" she is. I asked what they talked about, and he said, "She told me that our problems are marriage-ending problems. She said that even if we worked through these problems, more are going to happen. She said that I need to accept the fact that my wife might not change, and that my marriage may end. She said that if we don't change, our marriage will be over, because our problems are marriage-ending."

WTF?? She told him in his first appt that she is NOT a mc. She said that counseling couples is not her strong point. WHY is she even giving him marriage advice?? She's supposed to be doing ic with him, not mc! She also told him that his "conditions" were perfectly acceptable, and that he definately SHOULD NOT move back home.

She's NOT pro-marriage, she's NOT a Christian counselor. She's someone who only cousels cops. Likely, she mainly counsels things like PTSD. She is giving terrible advice.

Now, here's my problem. I want to tell h these things...

1.I want to tell him that his counselor is not pro-marriage, that our problems are NOT marriage-ending problems, and that she needs to NOT be giving him marriage advice.

2.I want to tell him that I noticed the internet history on our computer had an awful LOT of porn last week. Not that I'm too bothered by that, but part of me is for some reason...

3.I want to tell him that I also noticed our google history, and that he was googing OW's name, nickname, and email.

4.I want to tell him that I like his new haircut, but I'm bothered because his best friends wife told him to do it, and I've been telling him for years. (For some reason, he places a lot of value on what she suggests for him. It's just a wierd thing that bothers me).

So, instead of telling him all these things, which I kNOW would be counter-productive, I stew...then I'm a bitch...and we argue.

Last night we had an arguement. I wasn't terribly nice, but I'm so pent up with all of the above and then some...I don't know how to get rid of it!!

I want him to quit spending the night at home. I told him he should go home (to where he's staying) last night, and he told me that this is HIS house too! That was about 3 hours after he told me that it's again my responsibility to mow the lawn, because he doesn't live there anymore.

Venting here helps...a little.