Scrolling through your thread again & saw I missed this;
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Ooops. I meant "And pushing." Simple typo. That's all.
Love that Freudian slip Nomo, happens a lot to us "pushers" I have a feeling
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So, knowing how bad my W thinks she was controlled, I started thinking about it hard to understand my role. I sort of get it but then I dont. I never stopped her from doing anything, ever. Never said NO, said I wasnt happy about certain things and grumbled when she came home or the whole Dallas trips to her family thing was always an "issue" but I never said, "DONT GO, or YOUR NOT GOING". So please help me people, I dont want to be a controlling person, how can you guilt someone so bad that they feel abused? I swear, I dont really understand it???
I could be wrong CVA, however, I have a feeling that if you did come to understanding this, your R w/your W would greatly improve. As we discussed the ON, you didn't have to come out & say You're not going" for your W to feel pressured & controlled. Worth consideration I think.
Hope you're having an outstanding day in Sugarland.
