Good question. I really need to take some time and post my sitch to help provide perspective.
Part of the answer is that my wife and I share a love of fine wine. We have been to different wine country regions in the US 3 or 4 times over the years, love trying and appreciating the nuances of wine, maintain a decent cellar, etc. As a result, finding an excuse to split a bottle of wine is usually not an issue. That being said, I would like to experience more than a quickie with us both being sober, just to mix it up once an a while.
As for how do I cope? One, I still basically take it as I can get it and don't turn down sex often. Two, while I know the Green Day song, for me it may have lost its fun, but it hasn't lost its usefulness once or twice a month.
I will try to post more tonight or tomorrow.
PF
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
