JJ, great questions. For me and H we always said we loved each other several times a day. So when H dropped the IDLY, and I probably never loved you bomb it was so hurtful and confusing, like my legs were ripped out of me. And my first thought was, that is soooo not true! H is just acting crazy! Call it denial or just something I knew in my gut.
It has been VERY VERY VERY difficult NOT to say ILY to my H, since we did it so often. I truly belive that love is a decision and NOT a feeling. And since I choose to love my H, it is hard not to confirm that decision by telling him. So, I write things here.
Ways that I let the Love dwindle in my marriage. I stopped putting on make up and getting my hair and nails done on a regular basis. H loves it when I do girly things. I traveled 70% of the time due to my job. H said he did not mind, but I knew he did and should have stopped so much travel. But I did not due to pride. (Like he cant bring me down from my job!) Basically all of the love dwindeling was due to both of us putting pride before our M.
I have been trying to do a 180 on this, and let H know that he is the most important thing, our marriage and family are the most important thing in my life. (Right behind God. God, family, career.... )
