wawpioneer - thank you. I agree that he is angry and hurt and probably has a hard time trusting. I think you are right about us both being WAS. I felt like he was gone for a very long time. Then he wanted the divorce so i left. Not physically of course, but i removed my heart from the sit so i wouldn't get hurt any more. Now I'm trying to get all that back and I i just have to figure out how to communicate it to him so he gets it and it's not just me wasting breathe.

Heim - I read the WAW article. I kept thinking that was me. that was exactly how i felt. That i've told him over and over and over and he's just not going to change, so it's either move on or be unhappy. Any time i bring up the feelings I had before, he says i'm trying to make excuses for the EA. I'm not. Those feelings are real and valid and aren't going away because he doesn't want to admit that he had a part in it. No the EA was not his fault, i take sole blame for that, but how he treated me prior to that, he needs to own some of that. He has apologized for saying he wanted a divorce, saying that he though threatening me would work and that it would make me want to work harder.

you want the phone number... LOL. ;\) j/k i do wish someone could tell him that is all I need, some space and some time. He doesn't want to hear it when i say it.

If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown

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