I feel your pain and I am so sorry you are at this situation. Don't know if it's helpful but actually finding out about the PA was horrible but I can tell you that I felt much worse finding out about the EAs prior to that. It's horrible to say but we kind of get used to going through this crap. Like military training it build you muscles and resistance. I guess you will be surprised that when you have this talk some sort of shield will come to your hand that you didn't even know existed.
You've come a long way and you are strong. Take that advantage. I sensed from your posts and the feedbacks you got you are more of an aggregation type of person than confrontational. That's because you want to be good to everyone and it's a very endearing quality. But you can't please Greeks and Trojans sometimes no matter what you do so I think you don't have to waste your energy trying to find a compromising way of doing this. You can't live the consequences of the other people acts to protect them. Haven't heard about doing the good sometimes means you are doing harm?
