Taking it day by day...

[Hurtin4certain]

Wow Mark,

Your insight is amazing. Im really sad about this whole sitation but the woman Im dealing with is not my W.

My W was raised in a single mother household and her mom had a revolving door of men in and out the door. I on the other hand was raised in a great home, my parents are still married.

I wonder if this is just her destiny? After we first met and the honeymoon period was over, she would break up with me at the first sign of adversity. I wish I would have realized that she was destined to repeat this over and over and over again during the course of our relationship.

Part of me is scared... Im afraid a decent woman wouldn't want to be with a single, 32 year old divorced man with an 8 year old daughter. I guess Im scared I will never find the "one".

Our relationship is very different from most folks, I am white, middle class, always did well in sports and school.

She is African American, raised on the "other side of the tracks" and struggled with school due to her circumstances.

I think part of me wanted to rescue her and thats why we got together. In her defense, she has really turned her life around, gotten a good job and is the owner of her own house. None of her family can say the same.

My dad told me a while ago.. "You can take the girl out of the ghetto, but you can never take the ghetto out of the girl". At first I thought that was hogwash, but now Im starting to think he might be right. Perhaps she is a product of the system and simply only knows one way to live, run everytime life throws you a curveball.

My friends always wondered why it was always her dumping me and me pursuing her. Every one of them have told me I could do so much better. I guess love is blind. I simply love the girl and wanted to be with her.

Now that we have a daughter, it has compounded my feelings for her. Now she is the mother of my child. I wish so bad that we could raise our child under the same roof. I think she is more concerned with partying, having guys chase her, dirty dancing in nightclubs etc.

I have an appt with a very prominent atty here in Colorado on Tuesday. I tried to get this atty when my W filed for D 2 years ago but she had a waiting list... She has a rep as being a "bull dog" and can really get nasty.

I hate getting nasty with my W but I know she will do everything in her power to make this as nasty as possible as well.

When she gets mad, she loses her MIND!!! THis is going to get ugly.... unfortunately.