1)It's going to take month's, if not YEARS to repair the damage, and heal your M. Start thinking in terms of baby steps. You'll move the mountain one bucketfull at a time.
2)A spiritual life will help you. Miracles do happen, and prayers work.
3)Each and everyone of us are flawed, prone to make mistakes.
4)Keep low expectations.
5)Don't set time schedules in terms of re-uniting. She'll NEVER come "back" to you. She may move forward with you, but not with the same person that YOU were.
6)Let go the controls. Let your actions be of righteousness, but not necessarily for the desired outcome.
7)Be humble, admit your failures, ask for forgiveness, and take real steps to avoid making the same mistakes again.
8)Prepare for a bloody battle. You will be battered, bloodied, and neglected. That's the price you'll pay for maturity and growth. Growing pains of sacrifice.
9)Stand for righteousness. Fight temptation(ie judgement, anger, jealousy, control, anxiety, and resentment). Fear nothing!
10)Forgive your W. Love her as her creator loves her. She is not yours to possess, but yours to admire.
11)Be polite, friendly, supportive, encouraging, and joyful.
12)Stay in the reality of the moment. Let yesterday rest, and don't worry about tomorrow.
There is a purpose and a plan for everything. Realize that you are part of a greater plan and accept your position. Embrace the struggle, let go your past, and move forward with courage, strength, and faith.
God Bless You,
COG
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