Now here's what I would do. Tell her when the house sells, the debt is paid off. You are in charge of the finances. I'd tell her that things will be different. That you have changed. Your reactions to situations have changed and the way you deal with things have changed- and things will be different when she moves back in.
and then go from there.
That's what I told H.
Last week he mentioned he wanted to get his mom some jewelry. So I told him to check out Cookie lee. I had a friend bring a catalog to the gym and showed H. He started mocking the jewelry and what I liked (along with S- pissed me off). But instead I said, "Fine. If you're going to mock, I'll just walk away and go somewhere else." H tried the "nooooo" I replied. "I tried to help and you chose to mock. So I'm choosing not to stay here." and I walked away- catalog in hand.
H has a way of doing the same kind of joking that your W does. He has yet to apologize.
When life gives you lemons, trade them for limes and break out the tequila!!-- Soxfan2007
7/1/05 Bomb 7/20/05 H moves out 2.5 years of Rollercoaster 10/30/07 H moves back home
