One thing I thought about saying after is....I'm determined to be happy. I'd prefer to be happy with you and as a family, but I need to be happy either way, for me and D3. I also need to ask you not to contact OW while you are home. This isn't fair to me or D3. This is our home and we don't deserve to have this happen here. ***************************************************************** Sue, I think this is a good start. Is there a word you can use other than "fair"? Something like- it's unacceptable for you to be communicating with your lover in front of your wife and daughter. I can't control what you do, but me and D3 deserve for you to respect our home and keep OW out of it.
I guess I'm thinking about you asserting yourself and your boundaries instead of appealing to your H's fairness or counting on him to care much about how his actions are affecting you and D3.
