She responded to me saying I'll give her all the space she wants: "thanks for being understanding. phone and emails are ok for me, it's just hanging out in person is hard."
She wants space, but just physical space, not phone and e-mail space? Yet when i call/write she often doesn't respond for days, which tells me she wants space there too...
How does she know that hanging out in person is hard, I haven't seen her in two weeks and even before that she mostly avoided me. We haven't really hung out since september.
Why is it hard, if you are so emotionally dead towards me? What the heck does she want?
Yes, these are all rhetorical, unanswerable questions. So I'm going to keep up the original plan. As I said before, I am going to give her a lot of space, she can contact me if she wants. She needs to deal with herself right now, and I need to deal with me, too much contact will get in the way of those things. I am patient but if I consume myself with this I'm slowly going to go nuts, I need some detachment to lessen the ups and downs.
But I know that stopping the pursuit doesn't mean ignoring. When she contacts me I'll respond, though I probably won't be super available, wait a while to get back to her. I imagine some of the "progress" she said she saw was me getting out and living my life without her. So I'll let us deal with life a little without each other and see what happens. On that note, I will respond to this message, maybe tomorrow, just a short and sweet bit of validation.
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021
