I think you are doing a lot. But I think maybe you need to be doing different things.
Again, with the gift, if it is a *gift*, make it all about his dreams and fantasies.
But beyond that, what YOU can do is to focus on YOU. On finding your hot and horny authentic sexual self, on having reliable orgasms, etc...
I have brought this up before. You don't really seem to address it. Confront YOUR OWN sexuality directly. Do you have great/strong/reliable orgasms when you masturbate? Do you fake O's with H? Did you used to fake O's and quit? Etc...
