Originally Posted By: Dom R
Originally Posted By: azhira

So...what do you think she's getting out of these "online boyfriends"?


oh.. you know.. the usual stuff... the rush of the feeling of "new romance", personal validation of "you're so wonderful!!!" from a new infatuee,




Huh.... i may have been completely wrong on this one (what do *I* know, i'm just guessing here anyways.. not a freakin mind reader. sigh)

There's a chance that, along with meeting "new and interesting people", that she is now getting re-involved with a prior online OM. The "one before last".

I'm not sure whether it is more sad for her, or worrying, that she chooses/chose to be involved with this guy.
He supposedly got married in june 2006.. the same month that she moved out. Yet within 3-6 months, he was spending the majority of his free time online, and complaining to my wife (who he knew was separated) on the phone about how terrible his wife was.
Within 8 months of his marriage, he was seriously messing around with my wife online.

What kind of guy gives up on his wife, mere months after they get married? More than that... why would any woman, want to then be involved with a guy like that?
but wait.. there's more...

In the limbo period where he was pretending nothing was going on... he and I chatted a few times. he made a big deal with me, about how marriage was important to him, and how married guys should stick up for each other. (at the same time he was dating my wife). But if that wasnt sick enough... multiple things he said, make me think that he was never really married. he just played my wife with it.
Just like in "The art of seduction" book; he set himself up initially as a "safe" person, by pretending to be married. Built up her trust... and then when the time was right, took advantage of it, initially playing on her sympathy with "oh, my wife is so terrible".
After less than 6 months of marriage, his wife is an ogre??

[if she actually exists; maybe she was just a little peeved, by him choosing to spend all his time online, without her. hmm, there's a thought...]

Even if I'm totally wrong on him never being married, and he really was/is married...
I previously commented on how the other guys were "inexperienced" for long term relationships; In contrast, this guy seems toxic for a good real life long term relationship. Given the mess of his "marriage", I cant comprehend why my wife would ever have been seriously interested in him.

Last edited by Dom R; 12/04/07 05:00 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle