My H and I had many disagreements. I felt it was normal. However, I would usually avoid conflict because when we did argue he would start to put me down and walk out the door and leave. Then the next day he would act as tho nothing had happened and all was well. I did not feel it was normal for him to act this way. I would retreat to the bedroom and hide so he woudln't leave. Now, that he has left me I am sorry I did not try to get him to talk about whatever it was and listen to him. I got defensive because he was defensive. It was always bitter. He has a son that he brought up who is 22 and a daughter his ex has raised that is 18. I have a daughter 12. When we got together I felt it was grand the way he and his son were so close. He gave his son everything and even wrote out his checks for him to pay his bills. Then I realized they were dependent on each other and their were times I was jealous because I was left behind while they did their thing. My mistake was to voice that opinion because he has never let me forget that I was jealous of his son. He even walked out of counseling when I brought it up and wouldn't go back. He has never really bonded with my daughter except to degrade her. I am closer and do more things with his daughter than he does. Sorry, I had something to say when I replied and I got caught up on this and forgot. I will try to read it once more an dreply again. I miss my family. 8 weeks is a long time without him. All the bad times but I saw a light at the tunnel.. I Just read Michelle's book too late, but I am still trying.
