LL - thanks for stopping by. We used to check up on each other a lot back in the 2002/3 timeframe so it's great to renew acquaintances.
Reading back over my reply, I can see where the last paragraph can be seen as a bit mean - and I really don't want to be that way as it makes me uncomfortable.
As for W's issues with me - I wish I knew what they are. My IC told me the same thing that you have - the porn was the trigger but there is "the elephant in the living room" that does not have a name. I did find out by accident that W is trying to meet up with someone this weekend. I didn't recognize the name as a recurring friend and she has not told me a thing about it. I'll need to wait and let this develop on its own...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
Well - at least one question answered. W sent an e-mail to home yesterday mentioning that the person she was trying to meet up with is actually someone we know but haven't seen in years. He has a part in a Christmas concert at his church and W wanted to get tickets for us.
After we had dinner and W was parked at the computer, one of the kids and I were talking about our busy weekend to come. W mentioned the concert to the kids and said that she was trying to get four tickets for us. With a surprised tone in my voice, I said "Oh..." W asked me if I had read her e-mail and I said that I did. What she did not mention in the e-mail was her definition of "us" - whether that meant the kids and her or all of us. I think that my "Oh" really shocked her as she knows how the kids and I feel about her excluding me from a lot of things.
Later in the evening, S was finishing his homework and asked me what I had planned for Saturday night while W and kids go to a cookie exchange party (one which has been going on for over 10 years and traditionally only the moms and kids attend). I told S that I had a party of my own to go to that evening. S asked if I minded being left out from the cookie party. I told S that since the tradition was for moms and kids only, I did not mind at all and respected their tradition. S was fine with that.
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
It was a pretty busy weekend for us - separate parties (W and kids to an annual gift exchange with a group of other moms and their kids - H's traditionally don't attend that one, me to a holiday with my folk group) and I really had a good time on my own. I did have a few people ask where W was so I gave them an honest answer and said she had a party conflict but didn't mention anything about what lies in store for us.
Last night all of us went to that Christmas performance W sent the cryptic e-mail reminder to herself and followed that up with dinner out. And we finished decorating the Christmas tree earlier in the day - W even helped out some which was pretty cool.
W did mention that her work was going to be chock full of pressure this week and she may have to work late a couple of evenings. Hopefully mine will not be as stressful as the past couple of weeks. And I have my last IC visit for the year this afternoon - looking forward to that...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
W asked me if I had read her e-mail and I said that I did. What she did not mention in the e-mail was her definition of "us" - whether that meant the kids and her or all of us. I think that my "Oh" really shocked her as she knows how the kids and I feel about her excluding me from a lot of things.