Get Me On A Smoother Ride....Need Advice #7

[Startingover2]

I agree with Rob above 100%!! I always seem to have this fantasy that when you confront and lay down your boundaries they are going to fall to thier knees and beg for forgiveness. Maybe some do, but most don't (like my dh). Expect defensiveness, anger, withdrawl, threats and denial all the way. Like Rob said this talk is more for you and what you will or will not tolerate rather than trying to get H to change his actions. Face it. He is doing it now, why would he change now?

I agree as well...have your boundaries in line. What are you going to do after the talk? Decide in your mind how long you are going to allow him to cake eat right in your own home and under your nose. The part that kills me the most is how so very disrespectful they are. Maybe some consequences of his ongoing A will make him think different. Right now, he has the best of both worlds. He has OW when he wants, he is free to come and go and he has you and D3 sitting at home waiting for him. Such a sick game.

Hang in there.