I'll do my best not to bring up that other guy. I won't confront her but I may try to see if I can somehow bring it out indirectly. I keep thinking of what happened to Atlas and how the whole A theory may not be what it seems. I DON'T want to spend the last few days in our house with W so bitter, angry, stressed that that's her last thought of me when we are going to be apart for awhile. At least she is having conversations with me again. R was a hell of a lot worse a week ago. I know if I bring up that I know she's 'cheating', it will most certainly be ugly. It's going to be hard not to let her know that I know she's keeping secrets. Anyhow, refecting 24-48 hours before I say anything is a good idea.
I've also been reviewing things in my mind this morning and there is almost no possible way that this 'A' has been going on more than 1 or 2 'secret' dates over a few months, most likely not any sex yet, probably just workplace flirtation, maybe some hugging, kissing in private at most, etc.. At least now I know the primary reason that she never took up my offer of taking her out with her friends at new job....
This is a long term goal of mine. I want to get to know all her new friends, I've haven't even met most of them. I don't want her to 'be embarrased of me' or feel like she is 'ashamed of me'. I want her to be 'proud' to call me her H.
Get Divorce Remedy ASAP, read resources on this site, such as the ones at the top of the MLC forum. I will send some old timers over to visit you. You need to slow down, listen and stay away from the possible om, that includes talking about him. AT ALL.
Please don't do anything or say anything until you hear from some others...unless you want to jack everything up, that is!
