My H avoids all conflict, not just now but I see now that he has to some extent in the past. Hence the lying. If he knows or even thinks I will get mad about something he did or is doing he will either A. avoid me. or B. lie to me about it.I don't think this is a very healthy way to live. I am usually a pretty rational person and (atleast not in the past)didn't blow up for small things.I have always choosen my battles but it doesn't stop H from avoiding.Some disagrements are good for a marriage.Shows that you are each your own person. Just my opinion.
