sound like he holds some hope the M might still work, why not go to counceling together?
he's been unemploymed for the past three months and isn't looking ========================================= Reminds me when my H's job took a downhill turn, he couldnt' bear the fact that his work was suffering and that things are home weren't great, so he decided to leave, to at least have one less thing not working (yea, what a brilliant idea on how to make things better) Sound like your H is bored altogether with his life overall, and wants "something" to happen (the "mystery" part, what baloney!, if he lacked something in the M it was up to him to speak up and and make it happen)
Is it ok for you that he is not working nor looking? hwo does he pay bills with no job? Like the above post says, also bring up what YOU want.
As far as rekindling the sparkle, it happens when you work on the M, not because of it, I'm in the piecing forum, there is no "sparkle" in my M righ now, we sleep appart, but we are trying to work on the M to bring the love back into it.
A good read, perhaps he'd like to read with you, is "Love and Respect". As it is possible, do things together that you haven't done, take a dancing/yoga class together. Do you go out on your own? then GAL, get together with a girl friend, go for a coffee, each of us is in charge of our own happiness.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
