AmyC, I guess the ring is just a thing, like a D is just a piece of paper. Kind of caught me off guard added to the "family picture thing." Oh well, it is what it is, a tree not the forest. Now to work on the big picture, where's my chainsaw?
RHW, that pride thing is a tough nut, my W is Stubborn with a capital S. Probably from living with me. I think the only way for me to impact that is to be humble yet confidant, and keep on making our home a pleasant environment. (It IS hard to be humble when you're me. )
This morning was interesting, she's getting back to expressing different attitudes every morning and evening. I can usually tell from the tone of her voice if / when she says good morning how it's going to go. Today was the "I'm angry" tone.
Her mood swings amaze me. Friendly and personable last night, angry and irritable this morning. What the heck happened between there that changed? I understand coming home from a hard day at the office grumpy, but sheesh, what happens at night to make you irritable?
Maybe she called OM and had an argument? Hahaha I should be so lucky. She has left her phone downstairs at night a few more times, and it doesn't seem to tempt me nearly as much lately. Aaahhh, relief.
She didn't take it out on me other than being sort of cross, but she was very impatient with the boys, raising her voice to them a lot over nothing. Esp S6. She must not be able to see how much it affects them when she is like that.
Fortunately I have S6 for about another half hour after she leaves with S4, so I can get his spirits back up before I take him to the bus stop.
I'm starting to feel good about where I am right now, I think I'm keeping a pretty even keel, and "acting as-if". I'm working on some contingency plans for interacting with her after the next settlement conference. I suspect the road might get bumpy.
I've been shopping for her Chritmas presents from the boys, I think I'll get her something small too, act as-if. I was considering getting her a set of luggage, Bad TFH, Bad. I guess a lump of coal is right out too.
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I think the only way for me to impact that is to be humble yet confidant, and keep on making our home a pleasant environment. (It IS hard to be humble when you're me. )
Hahaha I should be so lucky. She has left her phone downstairs at night a few more times, and it doesn't seem to tempt me nearly as much lately. Aaahhh, relief.