I agreed with this statement - maybe I still do... maybe I just haven't found a good way to have healthy conflict...
My bf has said to me that he never felt he could say anything to me, because I'd get angry/upset, so he ended up not telling me things, bottling everything up inside, and in the end, we split. My way of dealing with difficulties was to blow up. His was to say nothing, even if he disagreed with me.
My parents divorced when I was 5, after an abusive M - father was an alcoholic. A violent one. I witnessed a lot of this, so I think my 5 yr old mind thinks if people argue, it means they don't love each other. So we didn't argue - I blew, he withdrew...
It's time to learn how to have healthy conflict...
Mel
It's time to live, it's time to love, it's time to do what's afraid of
It's time to breathe, time to relieve, it's time to shine
