Yes, having plans is important, I find it much easier to GAL if I plan ahead, it's a lot harder to just pick up and do something spontaneously. Plus, john, if you already have plans it's a lot easier to say no to your W.
Thanks all for the support!
Me: 43 W: 41 Together 2009, Married 2011 Sons 10 and 6, Daughter 5 Bomb 2/21/21. W moved out 10/2021