Cat, At one point during my whole mess, I made a list of all the things that H and I used to do together, back in the old days. Then next to it, I made a list of the things that we had been doing together over the past few years. The difference was huge.
So, then I focused on the first list. It was a list of like 10 things that we used to do, such as go to the movies, work on the house, watch URI basketball together, take walks, watch TV shows. So then I worked on regaining those common interests again. So, I started taking a new interest in URI baskeball, that I had stopped following when the kids were born. I noticed the TV shows H was into and I started to get into them. And now, I feel like we have those things back again. We have our things that we like to do together, that we had lost for a long time.
THis took time, but it was a way to get some of that connection back. By having common interests, it gives you something to talk about. It also gives you somethign to look forward to doing together.
Not sure if this helps at all. I'm just wondering if that may help with connecting.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
