Scottymack, I haven't read your whole thread, but from the last page, you could be writing my thread for me.
Sorry to see you here, but since we're in this boat already, it's a great place to be.
I just wanted to tell you that as far as living in the same house, I questioned that a lot just after the final D bomb. I almost asked her to move out, but finally decided that it was better to stay in the same house for now. It appears our D be final a few weeks into the new year, and I suppose she'll move out then. (assuming I get to keep the house.)
In retrospect, I'm really glad that I didn't ask her to move out. The part of DBing about being a safe place that they can return to is why. Immediately after the D bomb, I was not doing a good job of that at all. Since I have gotten my act together, I have been doing a pretty good job of that. I am doing a lot for myself, and also making our home someplace desireable to return to when she realizes the grass isn't greener over there.
One small difference is that our kids are little, and still at home.
Like your's, my W is STUBBORN, and hates to apologize for anything. That's worrisome, because I wonder if she won't just stick with a bad situation out of stubborness.
Take care of yourself and stay strong.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
