Maybe not too complicated to understand

[Michael Mc C]

So I guess the questions I have are about how to break it to the kids. Do we tell them tonight (Tuesday) that their mother will be moving out Friday evening? Is that enough time? Is it idiotic to tell them on a school night?

Do I suck it up and have her come back here after her weekend away and then tell them after she returns?

I know there is no easy way to do this but I want the impact on the kids to be minimized as much as possible. If we tell them early on in the weekend, then hopefully their schoolwork won't be affected too much. The only way we can do that now, since W and OM are going to be inflexible here, is to wait until the weekend of the 15th, giving the kids a week's warning, having her move out the weekend before Christmas.

Damn this is so friggin' hard.

She is already feeling the impact of her decisions. It isn't making her question whether she is doing anything wrong but she is starting to see that her actions (or lack of action...) really will have consequences.

I won't want to look at her after this weekend. If she is, as she puts it, "accepted" back here afterwards, it's going to end up being a miserable couple of weeks - exactly what I have been trying to avoid during the holidays.