Amy, What you are saying about how my wife should have alleviated the stresses that led me to drinking is EXACTLY the OPPOSITE of what she has been doing. I agree 100% and I'm not passing the blame, it's just a fact that she won't come to terms with. I honestly don't believe that the drinking was the CAUSE, it was a SYMPTOM of all the things that were wrong in my life and it CAUSED MORE problems. I believe that it's an easy excuse for W and that it's an easy thing to blame all her unhappiness on. That's my 2 cents and it's NOT denial.
No, it is not denial and I agree with the rest of your statement, as well. You have to deal with the drinking issue though, because it IS a problem. You can't force her to see her part in it so don't even try to. It has to come to her naturally or never at all.
Don't snoop and don't call that phone number again. That man is also a symptom of the deeper issues, not the cause. He is irrelevent in the big picture.
Buy "Divorce Remedy" as soon as you can and read it.
Work on yourself because you are the only person that you can change.
