Sue, Some ((( hugs ))) from me. It's so important that you GAL right now. Let your D be your light. I'm really close to my D, too, especially since she's my only child. During my darkest days, she kept me going, but even then, at times it was tough.
Some thoughts from me ... I know you're dreading having that confrontational talk with your H. It was hard for me, too. But one thing I did that helped a lot was to prepare. I made notes of everything I wanted to say, how I wanted to say it, questions I wanted to ask, etc. And I actually studied them. I would have liked to have had them in front of me during the talk (like an open book test) but didn't think that would be very effective! But overall it helped me to feel more in control.
More ((( hugs ))) I hope you got to get out last night, or find time soon. You need it!
