My h was extremely controlling when we got married (should of had a clue then) and very jealous.. of course over time this changed and he's not like that anymore, but im differentt too.. Much much more independant... and sometimes I feel I just don't need him in my life because of all the bad things he does and continues to do, you guys don't even know the half of it.
Originally Posted By: tiredandlost
Well it got uglier last night~ big fight.. and of course im the bad guy. I was looking on the computer for his laborer pay and I was looking at the wrong thing and I don't him he quoted the guy the wrong number, then jumped down my throat and started calling me names etc.. in front of the kids and the guy on the phone.
Tired, Unfortunately it sounds like he is still pretty controlling. Over the past five months of our situation, the W and I have never argued in front of the kids. And I can't recall either of us ever resorting to name calling.
Originally Posted By: tiredandlost
I don't know what to do guys, im really held hostage here, even if i was to think about seperating. Im a Sahm so we rely soley on his income. Even though I do a lot of work for him at home, I don't get paid or anything. At this point, though I never want to hurt my kids, sometimes I think this is hurting them more.
You need to do what's best for you and those kids. Separated or divorced, you H will still be responsible for supporting both the kids and you so I wouldn't let that be a deciding factor.
Sorry to see you in this rough spot. Hope you have a better day today.
